Socialising As An Introvert


For me, social isolation is a huge issue, I find it so easy to get caught in the everyday routine that i'll forget to talk to friends, to meet up with them and just have fun. I'm quite introverted as a person, so it's not something I do very regularly, social interaction can leave me feeling drained and its something I have to work up towards. So, I thought I'd write a mini how-to guide on socialising as an introvert.
I'll start with a hypothetical scenario that may or may not apply to you:

It's a Friday evening, your friends want to catch up over some drinks, which you know means getting absolutely hammered (or whatever phrase it is you normally use to describe getting extremely drunk). You want to go, but the reality is you're an introvert like me. It could be any group activity that requires talking and being sociable and what not that you seem to be hesitant over. So, here's my how-to guide on socialising as an introvert.

There may be a few reasons holding you back such as:

  • Socialising isn't your forte.
  • You prefer your own company.
  • There are 1000 other things you normally do other than spending time with your friends.
  • For some reason, you're just hesitant.

If any of the above ring true, then this is the guide for you.

Know who you're going with and stick to small groups or better yet a sole person.

An obvious one yes, but an important one for us introverts. Knowing who you're going with if you're going as a group can really help alleviate any anxieties you may have. (Not to mistake an introverted nature for anxiety of course, which are two totally separate things.)

Agree a time to call it a night before you go. (or a day)

Being organised always helps me prepare for the inevitable drain that comes from spending time with people.

Remember why it is that deep down you like spending time with people.

Even us introverts enjoy having others around for company every once in a while. If you're hesitant to go, remind yourself of why it is you enjoy spending time with people There's bound to be at least a couple of reasons why you like being in the company of other people. For me, it's the laughter that can be had when I'm around others that encourages me to go see friends.

Be Yourself

My most important point is to be yourself, it's so easy to compare yourself to other people and think you need to act a certain way (this will ring true for those suffering with social anxiety) but your vibe attracts your tribe and the best thing to do is to just be you.

Prepare your week around the social event.

This is something I have to do every time I socialise. I normally dedicate a day off for sleeping and resting afterwards (I know that may seem excessive but that's just me). I find I need time to recover from the emotional drain socialising takes on me. I know that sounds ridiculous, but genuinely, it's a mix of anxiety and my introverted nature that makes me so damn tired afterwards.

Make the effort at least once a month.

This is something I always aim to do, but it could be once a week that you make the effort with friends and family and go and see them. You may like time on your own, but it can always do you some good getting out and seeing people.

This could apply to any social situation you find yourself in, like attending community groups or meeting online friends, I just thought the above example would be a common one. Anyway that's all for today's post, I hope you enjoyed it. Feel free to let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

Bethany Lauren

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  1. I definitely think it's important to socialise sometimes - even as an introvert. I like to set myself a time, but sometimes i'll tell people that time too so that they know! xx

  2. I am a definite introvert and I agree with most points in this post. Picking a time to leave before you even go has helped me. Sometimes I decide to change it and stay a little later, but a lot of times, it is a relief. Great post!

  3. I am an introvert as well and it can be overwhelming to socialize. That is why I agree that introverts do need to prepare to socialize. That is why I schedule me time after attending an event. This really helps me to recharge after an event.

  4. Definitely finding the balance is key.

  5. such great tips. I'm a big old social introvert so I'll definitely give these a go

  6. I can definitely relate to this! As someone who really enjoys their own company and also has anxiety I often make plans and then feel a sudden worry when the day comes. I really like the tip about picking a time to leave. I often put pressure on myself to stay as long as everyone else but we all have our limits and it's okay for us to leave when we feel ourselves getting tired. One thing that I find helpful is doing things in small doses e.g. seeing one friend or a smaller group of friends. We all have our limits and that's okay - introverts are awesome! :)

  7. This is such a great post. I would class myself as a social introvert. It's great when I read that I'm not alone and others can relate to me xxx

  8. I’m an introvert as well so this is super helpful for me ♡ thanks for writing this. I’m always having a hard time whenever I need to go out with a group of people.

  9. OMG, it's uncanny how much I relate to this post. I have never put the introvert name to the way I am before .I always worried that I am anti-social or something else is wrong with me. This post really hit home for me. Thanks!!


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